Communication Stops because of Response to Words

Wives I have seen it happen over and over again, communication stops between a husband and wife because one spouse does not like how the other spouse responded to something that was said. For example, this morning my husband gave me several documents that he wanted me to look at. Based on a conversation we had for the last week and a half, I found it unsettling to have to add new documents in the equation when I had only been reviewing documents from certain companies.

Therefore, I chose to do some of my own research on local companies and suggested what I perceived to be a better plan than looking at companies that are not here with our demographics. Was that not received well. Of course it was not because I chose not to be overwhelmed and going down a path that I perceived was going to be off base. I made my case and then moved on from there.

Wives it is important that you convey your message properly. I think my message was conveyed properly and my husband knows what I was saying was right; however, he did not like the way he felt because I wouldn’t look at all those papers. I have repeatedly shared with him that I am not going to be overwhelmed when it comes to material.

Lesson learned from this: Listen to what they have to say and if there is a better way of doing something present your case. Do not prejudge a situation. Hear what is said and what is not said before you respond. Notice I said respond and not react. Time out for working harder and not smarter.