Selfishness in Money and Marriage…Divorce

For those wives that are divorced, I imagine some of you would believe that selfishness was a part of the reason for the divorce especially when it came to money and marriage. Your spouse always wanted things his way and he spent money on what he wanted and needed and did not necessarily think about your needs or the family.

To ensure that you do not enter another relationship with this same mentality, recognize that you cannot do the same thing to someone else. Do not be selfish when you go into your next relationship, but pay attention to what is being said about money matters and how he is handling his money. Ask questions especially if this is someone that you would seriously consider marrying.

When you are in a serious relationship, the man must come to the table with his “ducks in row” and I encourage you to not be in a hurry to enter into another relationship because you do not want to be by yourself. Take this time to heal and discern what you want to see happen in a marriage especially when it comes to money. It will not do anyone any good if you repeat in a new relationship what you just came out of.

When each person puts the other one first, everyone wins and no one feels taken for granted.