Being in a Marriage without your own Money

Wives – it is very challenging to be in a marriage without your own money. Several things can occur from that which directly affect you. If you came into the marriage without your own money and continue to not have any it can be stressful, make you feel less than and also feel as if you have to ask for an allowance. That in itself can diminsh the relationship because you no longer feel like a wife but a child.

Secondly, not having your own money makes you feel insecure about yourself and your situation. What if something happened to your husband? Do you even have access to money and are you aware of what is in the accounts? Ladies, I am not saying you have to control the money. What I am saying is that it is always important that a wife has money as well as has access to money. If you are the money manager for the family, you should be able to handle the business – paying the bills, buying groceries, pampering yourself when necessary and if there are kids make sure they are taken care of as well.

How do you resolve this matter:

1) What is it that you want to do? Are you a stay at home mom or are you a homemaker?

2) What is the reason that you do not have your own money? Don’t blame him. Just look at yourself right now and be honest. What’s the reason?

3) What is the first step you can take to ensure you begin to have some money of your own? (Part of it might be talking with your spouse openly about your feelings because you do not have your own money).

If you are in a position where you can return to work, then discuss with your husband first what you are feeling and what you would like to do. No you are not asking his permission, you are expressing to him that you need to do something for yourself that will also contribute to the household. 

Remember wives, it is all in how you say things.  The presentation and the tone in how you present it makes a big difference.