Values being Challenged Affecting Money

I have been teaching about money and marriage for a few years and realize there is apparently more to money and marriage issues. Have you felt as if your values were being challenged by your spouse when he went out and spent more money? Let alone, what he spent money on had nothing to do with your nor your marriage?

What do I mean when I say your values were challenged? I am all too happy to share that with you. When I say your values are being challenged that means you might be a saver and he chose to spend the money on an impulsive buy. This made you mad for several reasons such as you had already allocated that money to a household bill; he spent it on something he wanted but did not need or he spent it now because you spent money several weeks or several months ago on something that he did not agree with.

Have you ever heard the saying, Two wrongs don’t make it right! Same hold true in money. Do not spend because she spent. When someone’s values are challenged they take it personally. There also comes a point in time when you challenge their values so much that they are not going to stick around anymore.

Values being challenged affects the marriage in such a huge way that can have a lasting effect. I know a couple of people that have gotten divorced because they clearly were not on the same page when it came to money and marriage. It is what it is. Not saying that it is right or wrong because only the people involved can say what is best for them.

Do not disregard what each other thinks and or feels when it comes to money. Let everyone’s voice be heard and then become solution oriented together so you can move on.