Dating a Single Mom Focused on Money Matters

This is a post that I am making to single moms because you are a divorced wife and you have to be careful. I am going to speak to you from the position of being raised by a single parent. I have heard to many horror stories from other friends that were single moms that were dating. So do not think I am not speaking from some knowledge and being raised by a single parent.

First and foremost, love who you are. Being a single parent is not the definition of who you are. Who you are is a woman that nurtures, loves to give, what is your talent, what do you stand for, beliefs, etc.  That means that you do not accept anyone that comes across your path because you are lonely or you need the ego stroked. This leads to greater headaches.

Second, if you have not already established your financial budget for your household then that is what you need to do. Being a single mom focused on money matters can lead you to doing the following:

a) Cutting coupons to use at your local grocery store

b) Ensuring that you are aware of kids specials at restaurants

c) Taking the kids to matinee movies to give them a fun outing

d) Spending time together at home and involving them with cooking meals

e) Making grocery shopping fun and a lesson about money management

Everything that you do as a single mom, your child(ren) will remember the times that you have made sacrifices for them. When someone wants to enter into your life, you must remain focused on what the priorities are.

Whether you realize it or not you are setting an example for your children about what to do and what not to do. Trust me, you might not be talking with them in detail but I can assure you they are watching the steps you take. I fully appreciated my mother not bringing people in front of us because they only wanted part of the package. Recognize, that it is you and your children. They cannot just say, I want you and not the kids. The children are a part of you.

Whatever your career and financial goals are for yourself, stick to them and do not be distracted by Mr. Wrong. Money matters is not a joke and you cannot afford to be distracted. It is crucial that you take your time and listen to what is being said, action that is being presented and do not make excuses for anyone. I remember making excuses for men when I was single prior to dating and marrying my husband. That did not do anything but cause me a lot of heartache. Trust me, it is sooo not worth it.

Dating can be fun. Caution: Do not be naive or make excuses for anyone you date.